So let’s talk about cellphones. Full disclosure I would go so far as to say that I am bordering on addicted to my phone. I have been increasingly more distressed by how much of a distraction it has been during the precious ‘quality’ time I have with my son. I put quality in inverted commas because I truly believe that quality time means that you actually need to put down the phone.
I work in communications so a full out, cold turkey technology detox is impossible without compromising my job (that’s my excuse and I am sticking to it). So this year for lent I have committed to the following:
I have turned off my Whatsapp and social media notifications, so now I only see my new messages when I enter the app.
This has not only affected my quality time with my child but also had a massive unforeseen affect on my stress levels.
Firstly it has allowed me to be more present in the moment. No messages beeping at me distracting me. I maintain that if something is truly urgent a person will phone you. Also it’s not like I don’t compulsively check my messages anyway but now I check them when it suits me instead of constantly pulling my mind away from the person or task at hand.
Secondly, I feel less torn between things competing for my attention thereby reducing my stress levels.
I would love to know your experiences with technology and how you manage its role in your and your family’s life.